Calling Too Much – How to know if you’re calling a woman more than you should be

Hey, real quick here… if you want some great texting tips, you can get them on my other blog. There’s great stuff on building attraction with your text messages!

So you met this great girl, things were going well, she was touching you, laughing with you, there was great energy, and you hit it off great…

Or, you had a killer date with this girl… she was into you, you made out, maybe even took her to bed, there were definitely some MAJOR attraction signals being thrown around…

And now…

Nothing. It’s like she dropped off the face of the earth. She won’t even pick her phone up anymore…

We’ve all been there, and I know from personal experience that this sucks. The worst part about it is that I usually had no clue what I even did wrong, if I was calling her too much, or why she wasn’t answering her phone.

Here’s what I figured out, and I didn’t like admitting it…

It meant that I was making other mistakes. It wasn’t really a question of whether or not I was calling too much, it was what I was doing wrong to get to the point where she wasn’t answering the phone.

But that’s really not why you came here, is it?

You want to know when to stop calling her. So, I’ll give you a simple answer that I didn’t like: If I had to ask the question, that meant I was calling her too much.

The long, and more specific, answer to use as a guideline is that you want to call her once a day… maybe twice if there is something time sensitive going on that night. You leave a message when you call, and you text after one of the two calls, but not both.

That’s it.

Anything more than that and you start to look desperate.

Now… you can call her again in a few days. A text is probably better, it’s less investment for you and at this point you’re walking a thin line between showing her you’re still interested and looking creepy. If you need texts for this situation, or a bunch of others, go here to get my audio and eBook on texting.

If you call again, leave a message or text and still get no answer, then you need to scale it back even more. Send her a text in a week. if no answer, another one in 2 weeks. Still no answer? Another call or text in another month.

Probably not what you want to hear… I know it wasn’t for me. But, I had to admit that I screwed it up before I started calling too much… long before she stopped answering her phone.

And when I first immersed myself in this game 29 years ago, I didn’t have a clue what I did wrong. From what I see now with the guys I coach… and looking at what I was doing wrong, it was almost always that I either didn’t build enough attraction, communicated that I wanted a type of relationship she wasn’t interested in, or came off as needy or weak.

Gratefully, I came up with a method of overcoming all of those things. and, if you’re interested in getting started yourself, get Instant Internet Attraction. Yes, I know it has “internet” in the title, but everything in it applies to real life seduction as well.

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Flirty woman—How to attract the girl who flirts with everyone

Attracting a woman who flirts with everyone and trying to get her attention can be a difficult task. Well, difficult until you use the proper principles that will teach you how to attract her.

The flirty woman is easy to figure out once you realize that the number one thing she craves is attention. That’s why she flirts with everyone in the room (or the workplace, party, campout, ball game—you name it). She’s looking for attention, and what you need to do is NOT GIVE IT TO HER.

If you can separate yourself from the other guys, you’re going to get noticed. And how you separate yourself in the flirty woman’s eyes is by using the Push-Pull method. This is where you give her your full attention one day, then are too busy to even talk to her the next. She’ll wonder if she did something wrong (an indicator that the power has shifted in your direction), which is a good thing. Then when you reward her with your attention she’ll be more happy than usual to get it because she had been thinking about it since the day you didn’t give it to her.

If you’re on a call/text level with her, not returning them will also have the same effect. The flirty woman is used to having guys fawn over her, and return calls/texts almost immediately. When you don’t, it will show that you’re not like everyone else, and a funny thing will happen: she’ll start calling and texting MORE! This shows she is thinking about you and trying to win your attention.

Now, you don’t want to take this the level where she thinks you really don’t like her or are being mean, so you need to walk a fine line when Push-Pulling. If she asks why you haven’t been talking/calling/texting her, just tell her that you’ve been really busy with…(you fill in the blank), and it will have the added bonus of showing some social proof in the process. You see, when she has to work for your attention, when you give it to her it will be much more powerful.

If you separate yourself from the crowd, you’ll have a ton of success, in just about anything, but especially with a flirty woman. And when it gets time to set up an actual first date with her, check out my post on great first date ideas from earlier this month.

So it basically breaks down to separating yourself from the crowd and being the exception, which in this case means NOT always giving her the attention she craves and implementing the Push-Pull method when dealing with her. If you start off armed with that information, landing the flirty woman will be a breeze!

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Great First Date Ideas–How to make choosing where to take her a snap

What should you do on a first date with the new girl you’ve just met?  Where should you go?  Is it possible to do something that won’t break your wallet?

Once again, your friend JT is here to help you out (and save your wallet at the same time!).

The poolhall:  This is a great idea, and depending on the locale can cost $0.75 per game, or depending on the place, $10-15 per hour.  The opportunity for kino is great with this one, so it’s a great option.

Note:  “Kino” is short for kinesthetics.  You see, we all like to be touched, and there are two types of touching that we associate with picking up women:  social and sexual.  Social touching allows us to get familiar with each other in a non-sexual way…but works wonders for making it more comfortable when we escalate to sexual touching.  Great first date ideas should always facilitate social keno, because hey, if we’ve already been touching all night, it’s just a natural progression if we are touching in the bedroom, right 😉

The park:  If you live in an area of the country where it isn’t covered with snow, get out to the park and throw a Frisbee, shoot some hoops, bring a boomerang, you name it.  There’s plenty of opportunity for playful touching and joking around.

A Museum:  A great place for you to DHV (display higher value) with any knowledge you may have about the fine arts, and is a great opportunity to neg her as well.

Wine tasting/Winery tour/Brewery tour:  These are really fun, usually free, and are a great way to DHV, neg, and kino if done right.  Plus, you get a little buzz on and that doesn’t always hurt.  And remember, great first date ideas ALWAYS incorporate great kino opportunities!!

Ice skating:  We even have ice skating rinks here in Vegas, so you don’t always have to live in the Arctic tundra to make this happen.  It offers endless kino opportunites, and isn’t bad for negging and DHV’ing either.

Bowling:  OK, at first blush, this might seem a little silly…but come on.  Who doesn’t like bowling?  Again, a great opportunity for kino, negging and DHV.

And here’s one you may have never thought of, but should be at the front of your list at all times:

The shooting range:  This is not only ridiculously fun for you, but is so alpha that it’s ridiculous.  And just think of the kino opportunities with this one.  “Let me show you how to hold this,”  “Are you sure you can handle one that big?”  The opportunities are endless…

So there you have it, some great first date ideas that should get the ball rolling in the right direction.  Of course, choosing the right destination is only half the battle…but that’s a conversation for another day!

There you go, some great first date ideas, I hope these help and if you don’t already have my product on attracting women that includes female psychology, how to approach, and techniques for creating attraction, click thru and buy it now!

Drinking and Dating—How to instantly improve your game

I was out to lunch yesterday and saw something that I just had to write about. A ‘friend’ and I were sitting outside at a nice café that overlooks the Las Vegas Strip enjoying a great meal and great conversation when we noticed two guys sitting a few tables behind us acting like total douchebags.

They were young, maybe in their early 20’s, and were trying to be funny/cocky/smooth/cool—you name it—but it was coming off horribly.

They were trying to turn everything the waitress (a tall, attractive blonde) said into something vaguely sexual, and were obviously hitting on her. They were both trying to play off each other, thinking they were being funny, but all they were doing was making the waitress really uncomfortable.

And in case you hadn’t guessed yet…these guys were definitely drinking and dating (well, maybe something similar to dating ) was on their mind.

I rescued the waitress a bit later and she told me that she used to be a bartender and was used to guys acting like that when they were drinking. These two guys were borderline WASTED. And it was one o’clock in the afternoon (well, it is Vegas after all).

Here’s the thing. Drinking is fun. Picking up women is fun. Ok, both of those are REALLY fun. But they should be done separately. A lot of people feel they need to have one or two to ‘knock the edge off’, or loosen themselves up. And it’s true, drinking certainly does take the edge off. But it does something else too. It makes you THINK you’re being witty/funny/smooth/cool/confident/charming, but most of the time you are NOT BEING ANY OF THOSE THINGS.

Ask any female bartender you know if she likes dealing with drunk guys or if guys are more attractive when they are drunk. Are they constantly hitting on her? Does it get worse the more that they drink? Do drinking and dating mix? Does she enjoy it? I think you and I already know the answers to those questions.

Drinking also makes your reactions slower. I’m not talking about your physical reactions, but you mental ones. So when a girl says something that you could turn into a great conversation starter, comfort builder, or the next step in Seduction Sequence, you miss it because you are a tick behind and miss your opportunity.

And you don’t have to be drinking in excess for that to happen. All it takes is a couple drinks for you to be that half-step behind that will kill your chances. It’s a game of nuances and subtle steps that need to happen at the right time, in the right order, to be effective. Drinking puts you behind the eight ball from the get go.

Another advantage to not drinking is that you’ll probably be the ONLY sober person in the place, women included. Ahh…yes grasshopper, the woman you are interested in will also be drinking, which means YOU will be a tick faster than she is, which is HUGE. And because she’s drinking, once you build attraction with her she’s going to over exaggerate her attraction signals and you will be right there, clear headed and able to pick up on them.

IT WILL BE ALMOST TOO EASY.

Try this next time you go out. Yeah, I know, it may take some getting used to, but it will pay off in the end.

Talk to you soon– JT

So look, you don’t have to be one of those guys out there drinking and dating. You’ll be much better off in the long run if you master yourself…

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Workplace Dating–Tips for dealing with potential romance in the workplace

So. You like a girl you work with.

But… she has a boyfriend. Who happens to have a nice car.

BIG BUT…she’s always flirting with you.

Hmmm… sounds like trouble.

OK, this is a situation that comes up regularly with my coaching clients. Forgive me, because my advice on this one might seem a little more like a rant at times. But hey, I’m just telling it like it is.

Here’s what happens: when you spend a lot of time with someone, it’s easy to get attracted to them. Even if it’s someone who you wouldn’t normally think was your ‘type’, it just works out that way. They start to seem funny, witty, sexy… well, PERFECT.

But they have a boyfriend, or a girlfriend, or a baby’s daddy, or a sugar daddy… you name it.

Here’s my advice: FORGET ABOUT HER!!!! There are a million girls out there (literally) that are MORE attractive, FUNNIER, more compatible with you, and DON’T have a boyfriend!! Workplace dating isn’t all it’s cracked up to be!

Ever heard the saying, “don’t lay your meat where you make your bread?” Well, it applies here.

Ever notice that your world seems to revolve around the 4 or 5 places that you go to most frequently? Think about it. Work, school, the gym, the grocery store, the mall, the dry cleaners, your best friend’s house. THAT’S IT.

Really, think about it. Are there many more places where you spend the bulk of your time? I didn’t think so.

So you can see how any red-blooded human could put the blinders on and start to look for Ms. Right in those same places. That’s not always a bad thing…but it can lead to some serious complications.

Here’s the problem with that. When something goes wrong (and it almost INEVITABLY will), you’ll have to see that person on a regular, if not daily, basis. It can be really uncomfortable to see the girl who it “didn’t work out with” every day?

You need to get out of your comfort zone. Go to a different grocery store. Stop into the library (you wouldn’t believe the number of FINE women that are in the library at ANY given time of day…and on top of that they know how to read good!). It’s all about broadening your horizons.

Not only will that be great for meeting women, but it’ll do wonders to get you out of the rut you’re in. It’s SO easy to just keep doing what you’re doing…but that will by definition get you the same results you’re getting right now.

And I have a feeling that if you’re reading this right now, you’d like some different results. I know, it’s hard to do…you wouldn’t believe the heartache I went through before I made this my life’s purpose. But that’s a story for another day.

For now:

Get your game up to speed, get  out in the real world, and meet someone you DON’T work with.

To your success–JT

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Girl Gives You Her Number—The truth about when to call her revealed

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One of the most frequent questions I get is on the whole “how long do I wait to call?” thing. This is a really tricky one, and I’m going to be straight up with you, there are no easy answers. In the end I trust you to take a look at my ideas here and pick the one that will work best for you.

Because…

You have to play it by ear. You and I know that each girl is different, and they require a different strategy.

So, I’m going to give you a few different ways to answer this question, depending on the girl you’re seducing.

The one thing I would recommend you don’t do, as usual, is to listen to the advice of these so called ‘experts’ out there. Some of them understand the principles, but don’t see how to apply them. Some of them have been in limited situations with only a few different kinds of women. That’s really, really dangerous for me and you.

It’s like following dieting advice from a fat person, or financial advice from your broke cousin. Not a particularly great idea.

The thing is, the amount of time you wait before you call her after she’s given you her number depends on the situation. To say that you should wait 3 days, which I used to do because that’s what everyone said to do, is just plain stupid.

First of all, if a girl gives you her number, she WANTS you to call her. So, when you’re calling her, you have to understand that you’re making her day. So…

You strike while the iron’s hot. That’s your guideline. You get while the gettin’s good.

As you progress in your skills, you’ll be able to get most women interested in you right away… and the iron will be hot from the start.

So, if you met a girl at the bar or library or fair, and she was into you, then you call her as soon as you have a decent second meeting in mind. That could be to come to your place to watch a movie, the park to throw frisbee, or anything that’s close to a place where you can be alone with her and get physical.

Same thing with the girl at the library or grocery store. If you know she’s into you, then call her and set up a date, preferably that same day or the next.

Now, it gets a little tricky when you’re first learning seduction because you aren’t to the point where you can get her into you in that first meeting yet.

In these cases, you probably want to feel things out with a text or two first. I’ve got a great interview with one of the best in the world at text game, plus a pdf of his best texts that you can get on my sister site.

But, if you’re going to just call straight away, it’s usually best to call her that same day. Nothing long. Just to tell her quick that you were thinking about her, and then get off the phone.

This sends the message that you’re confident and go for what you want, regardless of the ‘rules’.

Sure, you may want to wait a day. But I wouldn’t wait any longer than two.

If you’re a strong confident guy, you go for what you want, you don’t play games, you don’t beat around the bush. You let the world know what you want, and expect the world to conform to your reality. In this case you want her. So let her know she’s wanted and call her.

You just call quick and say, “Hey I’ve got to go in a minute here, going to a show with my friend, but I just wanted you to know that it was great meeting you today, and if it makes sense, it would be nice to see if there’s something here. I’ll give you a call later in the week and let you know what’s up.”

Gauge her reaction here, and play it by ear. She’ll let you know if she wants to take things to a new level.

The most important thing to do is to NOT become a psycho stalker and call her more than once, MAYBE twice in one day with no response. Yes, when a girl gives you her number she wants you to call her, just don’t come off as creepy. 🙂

If you call and she doesn’t answer, you have to leave a message or send her a quick text. If you don’t, it makes you look wimpy.

Just leave her a simple message. “Hey this is JT, give me a call back when you have a chance. Got something you’re going to love!” Or, if you text, something short like “Give me a call quick when you have a couple of minutes.” If you don’t hear back from her that day or the next, give her a call. Again, you’re a man of action, you go for what you want.

Now, if it’s been a week and you’ve called or texted her more than 2 times with no response, don’t assume it’s over. But don’t hound her either. Make your calls less frequent, maybe once a week where you leave a message. Or, better yet buy my interview and ebook on texting and send her one of the texts in there.

Texting under these circumstances is probably your best bet. It’s less of an effort on your part, so she’ll see it as less of a commitment and you didn’t invest as much either. Texting is a good way to keep yourself on the radar without looking creepy. Coming off as creepy will kill your chances of ever seeing this girl again.

So, here’s the bottom line… if a girl gives you her number, she likes you. If there is attraction, you strike while the iron’s hot and call her that day. If you need to crank the seduction up, you usually call or text the girl that same day because you are a confident guy who wants what he wants with no excuses. Conveying confidence will do more for you than anything else you do in this kind of situation.

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