How to attract beautiful women

Okay, I have an email I want to share with you today. It’s from a friend who I’ve been helping with women the past week or two.

I mentioned to him that one way to get women attracted to you is to be impressed with WHAT A GIRL SAYS OR HOW SHE THINKS rather than how beautiful she is.
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How to Meet Women

Me and one of my best students are in the process of putting together a program for guys to learn how to meet women. He’s taking the ball and running with it right now, getting an outline we can work off of, and coming up with ideas so that you guys get great at approaching women and have FUN doing it.

The kid is a genius and I’m sure he’ll come up with things you and I have never seen… things that will help you get good with women, faster than you ever imagined.

And, in that spirit, I want to chime in here on the blog and let you know why we are doing this…

In the last 8 years I’ve been around the world coaching hundreds of guys. I’ve traveled to something like 16 countries, on 4 continents showing guys how to get better with women.

At the beginning, I just sort of tag along with them as they go about their daily routine and as we go, I show them how to meet and attract women.

We’d go to the mall, grocery shopping, and or bar. If he didn’t have social hobbies, we signed up for things women enjoy. We would go over theory, female psychology and any roadblocks the guy had.

In very single case, bar none, the guy got better with women. I had a couple of cases where a guy hadn’t been laid in years and he took a quality girl to bed while I was there coaching.

But there was one big problem…
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Where to Meet Girls

Okay, it looks like we have to back up just a little bit and take a look at where to meet girls.

You know me, I like to be complete and make sure you get good information from me so there aren’t any misconceptions.

I got a bunch of emails about my last post on how to talk to women, but I also got more than I expected on where to meet girls.

That’s great, because it either means that you guys have been reading the blog and already have a good handle on how to talk to girls, you just need to know where to meet them.

Or, you want to know where to meet girls because you’re ready to get on it and start pursuing women.

Either way, it makes me happy to see you going for what you want.

Here’s one email I got:

I also have no clue where to go to meet women. I can’t go to the strip club right now because it’s $5 to get in the door and $10 for a drink (even plain water). I can’t afford to spend $15 just on the off-chance of flirting with a girl.

Here in the burbs are malls but they’re full of nothing but high
school girls and middle-aged fat women.

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How To Talk To Girls

All right…

I’ve had a lot of questions from guys lately about how to talk to girls, start conversations with them, and move those conversations toward building attraction.

But understand this first of all…

Let me just say that I’m NOT a big fan of the PUA stuff and routines and stacking and all that crap.

Yes, I feel there is a place for some of it, but the thing is, YOU DON’T NEED IT. What you really want to do develop a NATURAL way to approach and have conversations with women.

Imagine going up to a 23 year old hipster, talking a few minutes, getting her phone number, making her laugh a bit, and having the option to call her and know she’d be game to hang out.

And then heading down the street where a group of women executives are having lunch together. You go up, introduce yourself, talk for a bit and inside of 5 minutes leave with numbers from 2 of them.

Later in the day you go for a quick drink after work and after chatting with a couple of girls in the bar, leave with the bartender’s number.

This is pretty much a normal day when you know how to talk to girls. And I’m totally serious. I do this. Not every day, but I’m busy and don’t get out every day either.

But, you don’t get this good with women by learning some canned stories and a bunch of tricks and lines.

You get good by letting conversations flow naturally. YES, there are certain “rules” that you need to follow to pique the interest of these girls.

There are certain things you need to communicate so the women feels attracted to you.

There are certain gestures and subtle body language signals that will help you seduce someone.

But…

These things become instinct to you once you BECOME the person girls are naturally attracted to.

That is the key.

To become the kind of person women are naturally attracted to. Someone they’d want to be with. Then there’s no faking on your part, no bullshit. You are just another authentic person in their life… but one they happen to be incredibly attracted to.

Now, becoming this authentic person isn’t difficult to do. In fact it’s far easier and far more effective than learning a bunch of lines and techniques and strategies.

And it’s NOT about changing who you are. It’s just a matter of changing your perceptions, your core beliefs, and your internalization of reality.

You don’t have to be James Bond or Indiana Jones types either. You don’t have to live a crazy, adventurous lifestyle.

You just have to hit the girl’s attraction triggers by being yourself.

You go up to a girl, talk about what you want to talk about, get her interested in you… then ask her out, get her number or get physical with her on the spot.

No big deal.

You just be your natural self, presented and packaged in a way that women find instinctively attractive.

As a follow-up to this post, you might want to take a look at a great article I wrote on how to approach women in public.

Talk soon—JT

Dating Advice for Men

Alright, I’m going to let you in on a few things about using my blog to become a master with women.

I have to tell you that the whole PUA thing pisses me off. I know more than the self proclaimed gurus…

I’ve been with more women than 99%  of them… and most likely more beautiful women than all of them…

And I can guarantee you that my standards and the quality of women I’ve dated is higher than these self proclaimed experts.

Now, let me tell you why it pisses me off…

The main reason is because…

I’m jealous.

Yes, I admit it.

It pisses me off that guys who don’t know shit, who don’t have the most basic understanding of how to pick up women, who get blown out all the time… just up and say they are masters with women and everyone automatically believes them.

I’ve been teaching myself and other guys how to seduce women for the last 28 years. There isn’t much I haven’t seen, a type of woman I haven’t seduced, or a situation I haven’t been in.

And since I am in my 40’s now, I have a lifetime of experience to draw from. I slept with my university professors in college and now that I’m older I mainly choose to date women around half my age.

There are very few people who have this kind of experience, and no one I’ve ever met who can do what I do with women.

And IT PISSES ME OFF that there are self-proclaimed “experts” with women who have nothing but a few lines, a few gimmicks, and some half-cocked “strategy” for meeting women.

And it pisses me off even more that when I tell someone WHAT REALLY WORKS, learned from decades of experience…

The guy tells me that he “read somewhere that what you’re supposed to wear crazy clothes and neg a girl…” .

FUCK THAT!

Look you guys…

Most of the dating advice you read is bullshit. It’s the same stuff rehashed by some guy that all of a sudden got laid a few times and now thinks he’s an expert.

What you get on my site is stuff that works for me and the guys I coach.

And yes, I’m really picky about the guys I work with. I make sure they are somewhat like me… good people !!!

If I don’t think the guy is a good person, I simply won’t work with him. What I know and can show you is too damn effective to be given to guys who are going to hurt women.

So, if you’re one of those people who think that each guy is different and what I teach won’t work for you…

You’re right.

The stuff I teach is ONLY going to work for you if you are a good guy in the first place.

Guys who treat women like shit, disrespect women, or think women are there to serve him, won’t understand the core of what I teach. And they won’t be successful with me as their coach.

But, good guys who love women? They become masters within 3 months with me.

Now, I don’t put my very best stuff on the blog just because it’s too dangerous, too effective, and too easy to use by anyone, including douchebags. And I don’t want to ever have a woman be hurt because of something I taught a guy.

BUT… what you get here is still better than what you’ll find anywhere else. And if you use what I show you, adapt it for your personality, and practice it… you are going to be sleeping with as many women as you want to.

You’re going to have multiple options for women to date.

Your whole life will change and your confidence will soar simply because you are so successful with women.

So, with that said, I’d like to suggest we get started with some real advice on how to pick up women.

Talk soon—JT

More First Date Ideas

In the last post I gave you a few examples of first dates for guys with a sense of adventure.

As promised, this post I’ll give you some more first date ideas, this time a few that are a little more low key.

Again, the objective is to design the date so that it ends up with you having the choice to take her to bed or not…

Not that you need or want to take every girl to bed on the first date, but it’s nice to have the OPTION.

We also want a first date where the focus is on something OTHER than the two of you. That means dinner is out.

So, with that said, we need some first dates that are lower key but still have an element of sexual tension as a natural consequence of the date.

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Creative First Date Ideas That Get Things Sexually Charged

Coming up with creative first date ideas can really make a difference in how a woman sees you.

The first date you have with a girl can make or break the entire relationship.

It can be the difference between never seeing her again and seeing her for breakfast the next morning.

Well, here are some creative first date ideas that work with women of all ages.

I’ve gone on these dates in the last year with an 18 year old girl up to a 47 year old woman. They have all ended up in bed.

The key is to do something that stimulates her mind and body. Doing something exciting that she’s never done before is perfect.

You want it to be something you are either good at, like to do, or are excited to try out.

I would also like you to think about doing something where the focus of the first date isn’t on you and her. You want the pressure off of you.

That means doing something active whether that’s walking an art museum or skydiving, you don’t want the focus of the date to be getting to know each other. Getting to know each other will happen naturally as you do things together.

It also helps if there is an element of danger, or perceived danger, to the first date. I’m thinking anything from shoplifting to a roller coaster to whitewater rafting to crashing a wedding.

And yes, I have done all those things on a first date and… I can tell you that it leaves a lasting impression and years later these women remember you.

So, here are a few creative first date ideas for you.

The Shooting Range First Date
Go to a shooting range. This one is cool even if you aren’t great with guns. Something snaps in the brain of most women when they hold so much power in the palm of their hand. They get turned on. Incredibly turned on. There’s something about blasting away at a target that gets women hot and bothered.

Even women you might not think would get into this will love it. All the better if you have something that “blows up” when you hit it, like a milk jug full of water.

The Sneak In Somewhere First Date
Sneak in somewhere. This is a really creative first date idea and they have been some of my favorite first dates. You go to the zoo or the train yard after dark. If you’re a good talker, talk your way backstage to an event. If you’re a good talker but not THAT good, sneak into the pool at your local hotel.  Crash a wedding or a party at the park.

The Playground First Date
Go to the local park and play on the swings, hang out on the monkey bars, and play on the slides. This sounds really dorky, but this is really fun. It’s a good day or night date, especially for online dating where women want to meet you during the day and in public sometimes. I’ve made a killing with this one.

There you go… three of my favorite first date ideas. For lower-key dates that still go great, check these low key dates. And for first date ideas, check out this post.

First date ideas that get physical

So you’ve got a first date with a cool girl and you want things to go well, and you want it set up so things can move easily to the bedroom if you want to mess around.

In this post I talk about doing something that is sexually charged, lets her get to know you, activates her mind and her body…

…plus makes it easy to transition to someplace where you can have sex on your first date.

Having the option to sleep with a girl on the first date doesn’t happen by accident. It happens because you set things up from the very beginning so the only reasonable outcome is messing around.

First date ideas that start to that end.

I’ve found that girls are more likely to come to your house on a first date if they’ve already seen where you live.

So, it’s a good idea to let her see your place at the beginning of the date. You DON’T want her to come in, nor do you even suggest it.

All you want to do is let her see where you live so when the two of you are trying to decide where to go after your normal date…

And one of you suggests going to your house to check out your book/CD/Star Trek paraphernalia collection… that she is somewhat familiar with where she’s going.

Now, there are A LOT of ways you can really creep her out with this, so you have to be careful not to make her feel uncomfortable. There are a couple of good ways to set this up.

One way is to have her meet you at your house and then the two of you can leave from your place.

If you do this, you have to meet her at the door, DO NOT invite her in, or if you do invite her in for some unforeseeable reason, tell her to stand there by the door and wait for you.

If she decides to move from the doorway to the couch or a chair, fine. But don’t suggest it. If you suggest it, she’ll be on the defensive because she’s thinking that you expect something physical, and that is really, really bad.

Also, if she comes in your place before the date, don’t touch her while she’s inside. Then, when you get outside, make a production about being sorry for taking so long and give her a hug.

That right there will put her mind at ease that you don’t expect anything physical. And it will make her wonder if you really are that interested in her, and that can make her chase you if you do the other things right.

The second way to get to your place before your first date is to pretend you forgot something at your house that you need to stop back for quick.

So you pick her up and immediately tell her, “Sorry, but I need to grab my wallet at my house.”

When you get there, leave her in the car, run in, grab whatever it was you said you left, and go on your date.

Again, you don’t want it to look like you’re trying to get her into your house to get some action.

You’re going to play this so she asks to go back to your place at the end of your first date.

Now, let’s move on to first date ideas that crank up the sexual tension and get her to want you.

Or you can take a look at this post on lower key first dates.

First date advice

Probably my best first date advice out of the date is to forget dinner and a movie. The traditional date just isn’t going to cut it. Here is some great first date advice that will make a girl want more of you.

So she’s agreed to go out with you. Now what?

Coming up with something to do with a girl you don’t know that well can be tough, especially when you need to make a good impression.

But, it’s on you, as the guy, to decide what to do…

Whatever you do, DO NOT ask her for ideas. You can tell her what you were thinking and ask how that sounds to her.

But don’t ask her for ideas. You’re the guy, it’s your job to come up with ideas. Just the fact that you plan it scores you points since you’re taking charge. And I don’t give two shits what any women’s libbers say, when it comes to romance, women want you to take the lead.

I’ve dated some incredibly powerful girls, women that would intimidate most 7 figure CEO’s. And every one of them appreciated that I made the decisions (with their input) early on.

So you want to plan the first few dates and okay them with her. Have a few back up dates in case she absolutely hates your first couple ideas.

Okay, first of all, dinner and a movie is out. I could write a full blog post on why this is such a crappy idea, but for now, just take my word for it.

Meeting at the local coffee place is not going to cut it either. This is one of the worst ideas because conversation can be hard enough on a first date and it’s much harder when your sitting across the table starting at each other. And I know a lot of places that give first date advice list this as a good first date, but DO NOT under any circumstances believe it.

For a first date you want something that…

• …is sexually charged.
• …let’s her get to know you.
• …activates her mind and/or her body.
• …makes it easy and comfortable to get physical with each other during the of the date.

That last one is the key as far as I’m concerned. If the date goes well, you want it to be easy and natural to let her get in your pants.

For some specific first date ideas that lead from out in public to at least another date if not the bedroom.