How to pick up women—getting out of a slump with women
A lot of times in my life I’ve found myself getting shot down time after time. I’d like to share with you the things I think are keys to getting out of a slump with women.
So what to do if you find yourself hitting a plateau with women that you’re not happy with?
Here’s something to keep in mind… If it repeatedly happens—you’re getting turned down by women, not getting the type of women you want, or not getting the response you want—then there’s something wrong with your approach. But you have to keep in mind that until you get good you’re going to have more failures than successes. And it boils down to being a numbers game…the more you do it, the more data you’re going to have to evaluate your situation.
It’s like flipping a coin, which is supposed to be a 50/50 proposition–but sometimes you get 5 “tails” in a row. You have to keep flipping in order to even things out.
Getting out of a slump with women can be easy as choosing the right women to talk to… Maybe you’re not selecting your targets well. If you’re targets aren’t very good, and you get in a pattern of choosing the same ones, then you’re screwed.
Really step back and analyze the type of women you’re approaching. Are they all the same kind in the same type of environment? Are they all different but you’re using the same approach tactics on each?
If so, or if in general you’re not getting the results you want, then it’s time to reevaluate your strategy. A lot of people in the pickup world would tell you to push through it…that it’s the woman’s fault, not yours.
I call bullshit on that one. If you approach 15 women and get shot down by all of them, then it’s not something wrong with them. It’s you messing things up.
They say that practice makes perfect; but if you’re practicing the wrong things then you’ll just get perfect at getting horrible results. Is that what you’re looking for?
I say forget that, let’s get you some knowledge so you can make the right decisions and start improving on your mistakes.
If you’re hitting a wall, then what you need to do is go back to square one. Go out and make conversation. Don’t make your goal to get numbers, or sleep with someone. Just go out with the goal to start a conversation with, say, four women. Once you do that, you’ve won.
Remember, the goal isn’t to get laid. Just do what you’re good at. Talk to women. Once you’ve done that for a while you’ll gain confidence. Get easy successes and build off of those.
More sarging is not the answer. Sarging isn’t the solution for getting out of a slump with women. If you consistently try to get 1 +1 to equal 3, you’re gonna bang your head into the wall forever.
You have to change something in your approach before you introduce yourself to more women.
You may find that it’s just one minor change that you need to make in order to turn a 0% success rate to a 75% success. Remember, if it’s consistent rejection that you’re getting, it’s something that you are doing.
If you feel that you’re getting stuck and want to talk it through, contact me through my personal coaching link and we can figure something out to get you through it. Sometimes it just takes an outside look at what you’re doing so you can turn everything around.
