Calling Too Much – How to know if you’re calling a woman more than you should be
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So you met this great girl, things were going well, she was touching you, laughing with you, there was great energy, and you hit it off great…
Or, you had a killer date with this girl… she was into you, you made out, maybe even took her to bed, there were definitely some MAJOR attraction signals being thrown around…
And now…
Nothing. It’s like she dropped off the face of the earth. She won’t even pick her phone up anymore…
We’ve all been there, and I know from personal experience that this sucks. The worst part about it is that I usually had no clue what I even did wrong, if I was calling her too much, or why she wasn’t answering her phone.
Here’s what I figured out, and I didn’t like admitting it…
It meant that I was making other mistakes. It wasn’t really a question of whether or not I was calling too much, it was what I was doing wrong to get to the point where she wasn’t answering the phone.
But that’s really not why you came here, is it?
You want to know when to stop calling her. So, I’ll give you a simple answer that I didn’t like: If I had to ask the question, that meant I was calling her too much.
The long, and more specific, answer to use as a guideline is that you want to call her once a day… maybe twice if there is something time sensitive going on that night. You leave a message when you call, and you text after one of the two calls, but not both.
That’s it.
Anything more than that and you start to look desperate.
Now… you can call her again in a few days. A text is probably better, it’s less investment for you and at this point you’re walking a thin line between showing her you’re still interested and looking creepy. If you need texts for this situation, or a bunch of others, go here to get my audio and eBook on texting.
If you call again, leave a message or text and still get no answer, then you need to scale it back even more. Send her a text in a week. if no answer, another one in 2 weeks. Still no answer? Another call or text in another month.
Probably not what you want to hear… I know it wasn’t for me. But, I had to admit that I screwed it up before I started calling too much… long before she stopped answering her phone.
And when I first immersed myself in this game 29 years ago, I didn’t have a clue what I did wrong. From what I see now with the guys I coach… and looking at what I was doing wrong, it was almost always that I either didn’t build enough attraction, communicated that I wanted a type of relationship she wasn’t interested in, or came off as needy or weak.
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