Workplace Dating–Tips for dealing with potential romance in the workplace
So. You like a girl you work with.
But… she has a boyfriend. Who happens to have a nice car.
BIG BUT…she’s always flirting with you.
Hmmm… sounds like trouble.
OK, this is a situation that comes up regularly with my coaching clients. Forgive me, because my advice on this one might seem a little more like a rant at times. But hey, I’m just telling it like it is.
Here’s what happens: when you spend a lot of time with someone, it’s easy to get attracted to them. Even if it’s someone who you wouldn’t normally think was your ‘type’, it just works out that way. They start to seem funny, witty, sexy… well, PERFECT.
But they have a boyfriend, or a girlfriend, or a baby’s daddy, or a sugar daddy… you name it.
Here’s my advice: FORGET ABOUT HER!!!! There are a million girls out there (literally) that are MORE attractive, FUNNIER, more compatible with you, and DON’T have a boyfriend!! Workplace dating isn’t all it’s cracked up to be!
Ever heard the saying, “don’t lay your meat where you make your bread?” Well, it applies here.
Ever notice that your world seems to revolve around the 4 or 5 places that you go to most frequently? Think about it. Work, school, the gym, the grocery store, the mall, the dry cleaners, your best friend’s house. THAT’S IT.
Really, think about it. Are there many more places where you spend the bulk of your time? I didn’t think so.
So you can see how any red-blooded human could put the blinders on and start to look for Ms. Right in those same places. That’s not always a bad thing…but it can lead to some serious complications.
Here’s the problem with that. When something goes wrong (and it almost INEVITABLY will), you’ll have to see that person on a regular, if not daily, basis. It can be really uncomfortable to see the girl who it “didn’t work out with” every day?
You need to get out of your comfort zone. Go to a different grocery store. Stop into the library (you wouldn’t believe the number of FINE women that are in the library at ANY given time of day…and on top of that they know how to read good!). It’s all about broadening your horizons.
Not only will that be great for meeting women, but it’ll do wonders to get you out of the rut you’re in. It’s SO easy to just keep doing what you’re doing…but that will by definition get you the same results you’re getting right now.
And I have a feeling that if you’re reading this right now, you’d like some different results. I know, it’s hard to do…you wouldn’t believe the heartache I went through before I made this my life’s purpose. But that’s a story for another day.
For now:
Get your game up to speed, get out in the real world, and meet someone you DON’T work with.
To your success–JT
Workplace Dating–Tips for dealing with potential romance in the workplace
