Picking Up Girls At Bars
Picking Up girls at bars is easy… if you’ve got the guts
Marlee is writing today’s post on meeting women in bars. (If you want to know more about her, read yesterday’s post.)
I thought I’d ask her to start with meeting women in clubs and bars since a lot of you have asked about it. To be honest, alcohol and women is really not my thing these days – it takes all the sport out of it for me. I used to go out drinking all the time, but these days I prefer day game and online dating.
Plus, what she’s going to tell you here is better than anything I could tell you, especially for clubs since they were never my thing. Enjoy this, and if you have questions, email me… Marlee will be glad to answer you in upcoming posts.
Rule #1 to Picking Up Girls at Bars: Learn to Dance
I can already hear the collective groaning of men all across the country, but frankly, I couldn’t care less. The easiest way to pick up women in bars is dancing with them. Hands down.
Let me level with you here. Women do not go out to meet men. Men go out to meet women, women go out to dance. Unless you want to spend all night battling the friend grenade to get to the girl you’ve had your eye on, read on.
Now of course this all depends on what kind of bar you find yourself at, but in the end it doesn’t matter. Whether you’re into the curvy hottie sporting the D-cups or the tall drink of water, every woman (every woman) likes to be twirled around a dance floor. If your response is, “But dancing is stupid, and the places I go don’t have dancing,” get your head out of your ass. The only places that don’t have dancing are sports bars, and meeting women there is a whole other ballgame (no pun intended) altogether. So in the meantime, get over yourself. Research has proven (my research) that at no point in time has a man willing to dance ever lost out to the “smooth guy” sitting on the sidelines. And if you’re completely unwilling to at least bob your head? I wish you luck in your upcoming bout of involuntary celibacy.
So let’s get to it.
There are basically two types of bar/club dancing that you need to concern yourself with; bump’ ‘n’ grind and partner dancing. Both have their obvious benefits (this might be as close to an attractive woman as you’ll get all night) and both have their disadvantages (get too handsy and you might find yourself flat on your back looking up at a rather ticked off boyfriend).
#2 Rule for Picking Up Girls in Clubs: Dance The Bump ‘n’ Grind
Technically speaking, this is the easier of the two. All you really have to do is follow a beat and pay attention to her. Now read the previous sentence again and pay extra close attention to the last four words… pay attention to her. 
Trust me, in this situation your dance moves are the least of her concerns. As a matter of fact, unless you really know what you’re doing, just let her go. Don’t try to impress. Even with the 2.5% chance you truly are a phenomenal dancer, the best case scenario is she’ll be slightly impressed then ditch your ass for someone who appreciates someone less skilled as herself.
Let me reiterate: all she really needs is someone to stand behind her and move with the beat. Think about it, if that pole on stage weren’t already occupied chances are even it would be seeing some serious action. Why do you think so many women dance with other women? Contrary to your wishful fantasy that 80% of dancing women are bisexual, they’re not lesbians, they just want someone to move with them. Oh and if they are lesbians leave them the hell alone, you’ll just come off as annoying.
Rule #3 for Picking Up Girls in Bars: Partner Dancing
The partner dance has one major difference from the bump ‘n’ grind. As stated above, the bump ‘n’ grind is all about letting her do her thing, you just hang back and enjoy yourself. The partner dance, however, (think Jitterbug, Swing Dancing, Salsa, etc) is for you to show you’re a man. Here, she wants you to take the lead and swing her around the floor.
Case in point: as a hot-blooded American woman myself, when I go out, I’m usually planning on being adequately inebriated to dance with someone a little closer than I was originally planning, and while the classic bump ‘n’ grind is all fine and good, it’s not going to be enough to get me home with you. But if you can take me in your arms, hold me like a woman should be held and subconsciously play into the Dirty Dancing fantasy ever woman on the planet secretly has? Oh, honey, it’s on.
So I’m sure there are men out there sweating beads right now trying to think of ways of picking up women in bars other than dancing, but it just ain’t gonna happen. If you find yourself at a bar talking up a gorgeous woman, the nerdiest guy in the world could ask her to dance, and unless you just asked her 4 seconds earlier, she’s going to say yes. To him.
I agree and disagree with what’s here. To see my response to this, read the next post.
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