How To Pick Up Women – 5 tips for talking to women
We have Marlee with us again today with a few tips for talking to women.
Here’s a bit of wisdom for how to pick up women that you might be happy to know: women aren’t as much into looks as guys may think.
Well, some are, but you don’t want to bother with those girls anyway, they’ll make your life a living hell and you won’t notice until 16 years later when you’ve been involuntarily castrated and live with a substantial number of cats. Consider yourself warned.
And yes, I’m sure many of you have heard women say something like, “Oh my god, I just want to go out and have a good time without being bothered all night by horny teenage boys!”
Intimidating right?
Absolutely, but want to know a little secret- that statement isn’t entirely true.
She doesn’t, in fact, want to be “bothered” all night by a string of sub-par male suitors attempting to hoodwink their way into her pants. But to have an actual conversation with a confident, charming man? Please, very few women are going to turn down that offer.
So if you happen to have your eye on an attractive woman and you don’t want to completely blow it, read on.
1.) Approach her.
There are few things that instantly boost a woman’s self confidence than a man walking right up to her, saying he thought she was beautiful and asking her name. Hell, I even have a boyfriend and if a guy says that to me at a bar I’m guaranteed to at least give him 10 minutes of my time. How can I not? It’s so damn sexy.
2.) Compliment her on something other than looks.
About to blow your mind here: saying something like, “Your tits are effin’ righteous” isn’t exactly going to do the trick. Ask her what she’s interested in and then find something admirable about it. She’s studying for a law degree? Compliment how intelligent and driven she must be. She’s a three-time miming champion? Mention how unique of a hobby that is.
Oh and don’t be fake about it. If you have a deep seated fear of mimes (or unique women), don’t bother, she’ll see right through it and you’ll quickly find yourself in the douche-bag category. Go too far, and you’ll be lucky if you don’t end up with a drink in your face.
3.) Ask questions, follow-up questions, and listen.
This, in fact is an actual skill that would benefit many people, not just ones attempting to talk to women. I have a Master’s in Psychology, and one of my favorite studies was one meant to determine how people become highly rated in conversation skills. The results? People with the best listening skills were rated as the best conversationalists. The lesson? Listen, don’t interrupt, and ask open-ended questions. She says she’s from Missouri? Ask her what brought her out to California. She loves to ski? Ask her how she learned. She’ll walk away thinking she’s known you for years.
4.) Ask if you can buy her a drink.
Bonus points if it’s not alcohol (we’re talking coffee, a milkshake, or some iced tea). Cliché I know, and I can hear the feminists of the world groaning, but as far as I’m concerned it’s just plain polite. I’m not saying buy her every drink for the rest of the night, but if you’ve been talking and it seems to be going well, no point in blowing it by refusing to put down an extra $3.00 for a beer. Which brings me to my final and possibly most important point:
5.) Be nice to everyone around you.
Tip the bartender, say please and thank you, hold the door for people coming in as you leave (together maybe?). Nothing is more of a turnoff than a man (um, excuse me, boy) who looks down on others. You are no better than the cab driver, the waitress, or the door man. She’s not an idiot, she knows you’re going to be on your best behavior while she’s paying attention to you, so if you’re a complete ass to others, how long will it be until you start treating her like that?
Go ahead, I dare you to try out these tips when you’re out picking up women tonight. Women are looking for confident, caring, and nice guys. A bad boy might suck her in for a brief moment, but it’s a useless ploy. Besides, women that fall for bad boys only do for a certain amount of time before they get sick of the immaturity and start looking for someone they don’t have to babysit.
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