How to approach women—overcoming approach anxiety

Let’s talk a little about approach anxiety and how to approach women. Approach anxiety is a pickup term that’s thrown around a lot, and for our purposes it means seeing someone you want to talk to… but not having the guts to do it.

It also can mean wanting to do something but not doing it—that’s something we do all the time in our daily lives. We rationalize our way out of doing things. Ben Franklin said, and I’m paraphrasing here, that one drawback to humans being rational is that we can rationalize anything, whether it’s good for us or not.

People try to give fancy techniques and strategies for overcoming your approach anxiety, and they’re all pretty much crap. Looking at the root cause of your fear is bull. It doesn’t matter why you’re doing it; if you analyze it all you are doing is analyzing what isn’t working. Forget that.

Take action! That’s what matters here. You have to co

nquer the fear. Yes, recognize that it’s there, but don’t let it rule your life. We all have to do things we fear doing if we hope to be successful at any given venture.

Just like with anything else that you’re having trouble getting the courage to do it helps tremendously to imagine the worst case scenario. If you can live with that outcome, then it’s worth making the approach. What is she going to do? Ignore you. OK. Laugh at you? OK. Make you feel stupid? Big deal. Throw a drink in your face? Probably not, but who gives a crap.

What she is not going to do is take away your birthday. Or ruin your life. Or kick your ass (hopefully). So why would you not do it?

Continue reading Part 2 here!!

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Talk soon–JT