How To Talk To Girls
All right…
I’ve had a lot of questions from guys lately about how to talk to girls, start conversations with them, and move those conversations toward building attraction.
But understand this first of all…
Let me just say that I’m NOT a big fan of the PUA stuff and routines and stacking and all that crap.
Yes, I feel there is a place for some of it, but the thing is, YOU DON’T NEED IT. What you really want to do develop a NATURAL way to approach and have conversations with women.
Imagine going up to a 23 year old hipster, talking a few minutes, getting her phone number, making her laugh a bit, and having the option to call her and know she’d be game to hang out.
And then heading down the street where a group of women executives are having lunch together. You go up, introduce yourself, talk for a bit and inside of 5 minutes leave with numbers from 2 of them.
Later in the day you go for a quick drink after work and after chatting with a couple of girls in the bar, leave with the bartender’s number.
This is pretty much a normal day when you know how to talk to girls. And I’m totally serious. I do this. Not every day, but I’m busy and don’t get out every day either.
But, you don’t get this good with women by learning some canned stories and a bunch of tricks and lines.
You get good by letting conversations flow naturally. YES, there are certain “rules” that you need to follow to pique the interest of these girls.
There are certain things you need to communicate so the women feels attracted to you.
There are certain gestures and subtle body language signals that will help you seduce someone.
But…
These things become instinct to you once you BECOME the person girls are naturally attracted to.
That is the key.
To become the kind of person women are naturally attracted to. Someone they’d want to be with. Then there’s no faking on your part, no bullshit. You are just another authentic person in their life… but one they happen to be incredibly attracted to.
Now, becoming this authentic person isn’t difficult to do. In fact it’s far easier and far more effective than learning a bunch of lines and techniques and strategies.
And it’s NOT about changing who you are. It’s just a matter of changing your perceptions, your core beliefs, and your internalization of reality.
You don’t have to be James Bond or Indiana Jones types either. You don’t have to live a crazy, adventurous lifestyle.
You just have to hit the girl’s attraction triggers by being yourself.
You go up to a girl, talk about what you want to talk about, get her interested in you… then ask her out, get her number or get physical with her on the spot.
No big deal.
You just be your natural self, presented and packaged in a way that women find instinctively attractive.
As a follow-up to this post, you might want to take a look at a great article I wrote on how to approach women in public.
Talk soon—JT
